HOW TO CHANGE YOUR MENTALITY

Your mentality means the way you’ll reason and judge cases at different instances. Your mentality defines when to say this is wrong while that is right. Let’s say the people around you believe women are inferior then you see a woman shouting at a man. It’s your mentality(if it’s like the people around you) that would decide if the actions of the woman is right or wrong. Read this post to learn how to change a mentality you know is wrong
Know this:
Mentality isn’t same as behavior. It is your mentality that’ll influence your behavior at any given place and occurrence. You should change your mentality so it wouldn’t be bias and would match every environment you find yourself meanwhile you shouldn’t change your behavior until you’ve found an in-depth genuine reason for doing so.

Why you should change mentality
1. Change is constant
Aren’t you tried of reasoning things in just one way while others faraway reason things another way? Aren’t you curious to know why they reason the way they do? Let’s say you hate something alot but noticed that people in a faraway land accept it. Wouldn’t you be curious to know why they accept it? Note that hatred is a bad feeling and you shouldn’t hate. Instead, you should find a reason to love. If however, something is generally-socially unacceptable(like rape), avoidance should be the right word to use to describe how you feel towards it.
2. Different environment
If you change your mentality, you’ll be able to better adapt to a new environment you find yourself. Let’s say you’re from Nigeria which condemns homosexuality. Meanwhile, you’re traveling to America that accepts it(i guess). Only when you change your mentality would you be able to see things their way
3. Firmer decision
Once you know the reason you’re doing something, you’ll be firmer in it. You may be doing something because the people around you were doing it and if asked why you did it, you may not have a genuine reason to tell. However, if you aren’t bias and you know the real reason why something is wrong, you’ll be able to defend yourself for not doing it.

4. Better relationship with everyone
Once you accept things just the way the people around you do, you’ll not be able to flow well with others with a different mindset. If you learn the reason why everyone decide and judge the way they do, you’ll flow well better with them. Let’s say women are viewed as inferior in your village then someone from your village comes to visit you and your friends at the city. Only when you have an open way of reasoning would you be able to connect the whole house so quarrels or argument wouldn’t spring up.
5. Find pleasure in ways others won’t
Let’s use homos.exuality for example. How can you enjoy their jokes and see a reason to laugh when you hate them? When you have an opened way of reasoning, you’ll be able to enjoy in ways and places others won’t.
Now you’ve learnt why you should change your mentality. How really do you change it?

How to change your mentality
1. Hate nobody
I’ve seen countless of people that hate others simply because of what they’re doing. How can you learn from someone if you hate him/her when(maybe) what he’s/she’s doing isn’t generally unacceptable? In order to change your mentality, hate nobody
2. Love all
If really, you want to change the way you think, love all. If you don’t love all, you’ll be bias in reasoning but if you love all, you’ll reason in different ways
3. Read and research
You’ll only be able to reason things in different ways when you’re exposed to different ideas and places. How can you better explore the whole world? Read what people who have been to different places wrote.
4. Be selective of the people around you 
When you’re with wrong people,You’ll behave and think like them. You should be with correct minded people who you know are beneficial to the betterment of your life. Only this way would you reason in a better way.
5. Know the basic rights and wrong 
There are things that are generally unacceptable. You should learn what is wrong so no matter where you go, you’ll be firmer not to behave like people doing what you know is wrong. Let’s say smoking weed for instance. Would you smoke because the people around you smoke? You shouldn’t. Take time and study the world for the general laws.
6. Have principles
Now that you know something is generally wrong and another is right, it’s time to have solid principles to govern your life. You shouldn’t allow external pressure to change your decision. That’s only possible when you follow your principles to the extreme. Please note that before you excuse an idea, you should first understand what it implies so that you wouldn’t be confidently doing something wrong.
7. Try out new things
You should try to enjoylife’s little things  Go beaches and picnics. Nature has a way of opening one’s mind in different aspects.
8. Look within yourself
Look within yourself to find if there’s still hatred in you. If there is, find a way to clean it out. You shouldn’t hate. How would you feel if people hate you because you think something is right?
9. Try to be humble
Pride blinds someone’s eyes so he/she can’t see things people’s ways. Be humble and learn to use the three magic words
10. That’s it
Now note that the first point states that change is constant. Always learn to find new/easier ways of doing things.
If you follow these steps, am pretty sure you’ll have a better mentality than before. God bless you all